Romans 8:28-29 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.We have all heard that God works all things together for good. When Anna died I thought, "This is not good." I had to let go of my idea of what was good and look at God's idea of good. God's goal for us is to be conformed to the likeness of his Son. That is what he calls good. I confess that being like Jesus has not always been on the top of my "to do" list. My life is consumed by things I am involved in, the difficulties I face, the hardships I endure, the choices I make. But those things are only important in light of God's ultimate goal for me--to be conformed to the image of Christ.
Paul Tripp says, "The rules-and-regulations approach that focuses on keeping the teenager 'out of trouble' will ultimately fail because it does not deal with the heart.... we may well be trying to produce what only God can produce as he works to change the hearts of our teenagers. What we need to do is trust his work as we seek, in restful faith, to be instruments of change in his redemptive hands."